Evidence of Entitlement Below is an e-mail exchange between one of my readers (Tom) and a woman he met on eHarmony.com (Alisa). Like most women, she felt entitled to be treated at their first meeting. My Suggestion: Get the woman's agreement before you meet her that the blind date will be Dutch. Alisa, Wow I totally didnt see that coming, I am sorry you feel that way, I didnt see that as a first date and I was treating it as a 'blind date' and on blind dates I always split the bill. I am looking for a woman that wants to be treated equals and not woman that thinks that she is entitled to have a man pay for dates, and part of being treated as an equal is sharing a bill on blind/1st meeting type date. If the woman expects to have her meals paid for she may be a Princess that is just looking for someone to take care of her, not what I am looking for, having said that I will happily pay for dates when I ask a woman out (not the 1st meet-up/blind date), expecting that when I am asked out by the woman that she is going to foot the bill on those dates. I don't think reciprocity is too much to ask for when you are dating. And yes I thought we got along great, and was looking forward to our next date (and yes I was paying because I asked you in the VM I left you today) Good luck in your search. Tom Tom Although you seem like a nice guy, I have to say that I was very turned off by the fact that you did not pick up the tab on our first date. I am fully able to pay my way but I felt it was tacky. For future reference, if you ask someone out you should automatically pick up the tab (even if the date was terrible like you stated inappropriately that a previous date was... ours was not terrible I don't think). Good luck with your search. ALISA